trust is like an onion, there are layers. with no trust, the onion stays whole, even that very thin onion skin is intact. with no trust, there are no tears, no risk is taken. there is no pain or heartache, but there is also no pleasure, joy or fun. peeling the layers is uncomfortable, to say the least. this is because of the risk. one only starts removing the skin and fighting through the layers when one desires that another knows one more completely. things cannot be unsaid or unlearned, so the impetus for removing all the layers is the desire one has for another. the stronger the desire, the greater the risk, the more the layers are pealed. therefore, the only way to avoid the tears is not to remove the skin… or to remove all the layers until the onion is gone and the peeling turns to pealing.